June flew by,
feeling like May finished and July started.
June seemed too short; I didn’t have the
chance to do everything that I wanted. I know this is the way our life
goes, day by day, month by month and suddenly we realise, we are
getting old. I was thinking that our lives are so short, there are so
many things that we want to do in a life time…but at the end…I wonder,
what really matters.
What we take with us at the end, what we
will regret the most, will our unfulfilled dreams matter anymore? When
you are working in a nursing home you often ask yourself these
questions and many others. Life is very fragile; we never know what
tomorrow will bring, so we need to live today. When everything is
going well in our life we talk about tomorrow as in a certainty, but
it never is. We need to make today count, because for tomorrow we
cannot be sure. I very often ask myself, how can I make my life count?
How to make sure at the end of my days I will have just a few regrets,
too few to mention!
elderly we serve, as many others, do have regrets, but our duty is to
help them to resolve some of them, those that can be solved, and where
nothing can be done to help them not to focus on them too much.
This month, my colleague
called me about a case that he had
at the night shelter, asking if we can assist a lady that was homeless
for a few years, but she should not be there, she needs proper care.
Lady Catarina is 78 years
old and she speaks
mainly Hungarian. It was hard for me to communicate with her, but our
doctor was talking with her and when she visited the centre she had
big eyes when she saw the rooms, dining room, living room and all the
When she find out she can come
and live in the centre she could not believe, especially that her
pension is just £60/$90 a month and she knew the cost is much more
than that. She doesn’t understand how it’s possible to live in such a
place and not to have to leave every morning to the streets having to
find food, doesn’t matter whether it was cold or hot outside. On the
streets many times she had problems with other homeless as she has
some disability and they were making fun of her.
Even if for her it’s hard to understand that
on this planet there are still a few good people that will pay for her
cost, I know some of those people and I know some of you will decide
to sponsor her and to contribute to the cost that totals
£230 a month.
Her story intrigues me, but it’s hard for her to open up to us and we
didn’t force her. First she needs to be confident with us and then she
can tell us her story.
As summer came we are glad to see our
elderly engaging in activities outside. In Salonta we take every
opportunity to take the residents outside in the park and for some of
them it is like for us to go on a holiday. Some of our residents get
involved in gardening activities and love to be able to tend
to the flowers.
As we do every month we celebrated birthdays
and we are so happy to be able to do that every month. We wish
Happy Birthday to: Vlad (69 years), Floare (74 years), Ana (86 years),
Catalina (84 years), Elisabeta (84 years). May God’s blessing be
upon them each day of their lives.
Through the two centres at the moment we
care for 64 residents and we pray to God to be able to do the
best job we can, because we want to do it for them. In Salonta a
husband and wife came and was added to the family. Mr. Gheorghe
(70 years) and lady Matilda (69 years). She has various health
problems and we pray for God's wisdom in
treating her. We lost Mr. Ionel (81 years) due to cancer after
a few weeks of suffering and we pray for his wife that remains in the
centre with us.
At Oradea Elderly Centre, 5 more came
in June from different situations and with different medical problems.
Unfortunately, we lost 3 residents this month and we pray that God
will be with their families and give them peace in their heart.
Lady Bodnar (77 years) she came
middle of March with medical problems and after a stroke had to go in
the hospital, but nothing could be done for her. Mr Teodor came
in the final stages with lung cancer and past away 2 weeks after he
came, but the family were relieved of the pressure and appreciated the
fact he was cared with dignity. Lady Floare (79 years) came
from the hospital in a very bad condition and needed a lot of medical
care as her condition worsened each day. May God comfort the families
and the close ones through all these losses.
On June 15-16 I was together with Mioara to
a National Conference about long term Elderly Care. For us,
this was very helpful to meet other people and to exchange information
and experience. I also found new opportunities to improve the quality
of the elderly life in our centres.
If you remember at the beginning of the
report I was wondering how to live my life so that at the end I will
have too few regrets to mention…I think I find my answer…to live my
life for others as Jesus did, because heaven will be full of people,
not of material things. Please think about this…and after you find
your answer, live your life in such a way that the regrets you will
have at the end of your days will be too few to mention!
Mother Teresa said:
"Today somebody is suffering, today
somebody is in the street, today somebody is hungry. Our work is for
today, yesterday has gone, tomorrow has not yet come. We have only
today to make Jesus known, loved, served, fed, clothed and sheltered.
Do not wait for tomorrow. Tomorrow we may not have them if we do not
feed them today."
My God help us all to
do the things that matter today to make a difference for tomorrow!
Director of Elderly Care
For God to prepare the new residents that will came in the centres
and experience the love of God through the care we provide;
For the new residents to adapt in the centres;
For having the money to be able to pay the staff and all the
For staff to have a loving and caring heart for those in need;
For health and well-being for residents and staff as last month we
had many with sickness;
For all Smiles staff to be a testimony of God’s love so others
will get to know HIM.
Please pray for us because when you pray God
hears more than what you say, answers more that we ask, gives more
than we can imagine in His own time and in His own way.